Issue #1: Soft Healing Growth
Pursuing your dreams, knowing what you deserve, social media scrolling...
What we will cover today:
One lesson I have learned the hard way
One mistake I will never make again
One thing I am doing for my emotional well being
One quote that hit home
Weekly Picks (with key takeaways)
Weekend Challenge
Wallpaper for You to Download
Before we get started, I hope you know I am here to help you and also those who are making a positive impact in this world. So I have decided to bring their work to you, which has helped me and might help you too.
So here is how I can help:
If you want to increase awareness for your book or a digital product that will help my community, I am open to a paid collaboration and featuring it on my page. Bonus: you will also get a detailed testimonial.
If you are a writer or a poet centered around healing, growth, relationships, or mental health, I am open to a paid collaboration and feature your writings on my page.
If you are a content creator and want to focus on your business or other priorities, you can hire me as your content writer or distributor to consistently share your message with the people who need it.
You can reach out to me through my Instagram message or by replying to this email.
Now on to today’s newsletter.
One lesson I have learned the hard way:
In a couple of years it won’t matter how long it took, you will just be glad you did it.
Before my page, Soft Healing Growth, I had several other pages—one after another. I wanted to reach my goals fast. So when I didn’t see results within a few weeks or months, I would delete that account.
I kept repeating that cycle several times. And I was burned out. I wanted to give up. I knew this was not how I wanted things to be!
And then one day, I saw someone post their story. So that person was saying, “It took me five years of consistent posting and learning for my account to take off.” For five years, he was stuck with 25k followers. Now he has over 500k followers over the last two years.
And that story was a ‘bulb-lit’ moment for me. I realized his reason for staying consistent.
It was never about the number. He was focusing on making an impact and serving his already existing audience. That led me to look for my purpose.
I always loved helping people. I am empathetic, and I feel everything deeply. And during that time, I was struggling with my deteriorating mental health. So something occurred to me.
I am not alone in feeling this way. There must be others who are not getting the support they need from their family. And with that in mind, I founded Soft Healing Growth (previously Wholehearted Positivity).
Now it has been two and a half years already, and if I could go back and say one thing to my past self, I would tell her to keep doing what she is doing and not give up.
People say motivation doesn’t last. But what is motivation?
To me, it’s feeling a strong desire to do something. It is enjoying what you are doing.
So when your motivation is aligned with your deepest purpose, it gets easier to build long-lasting discipline around it (even on your hardest days).
On my previous pages, I chased numbers. With this page, I am creating a safe space for you to heal and grow.
Can you see the difference? The one was out of my control. The other, though, is something within my control. And that’s when I was able to build an amazing community and soulful connections.
I wasn’t a writer. I am still not one yet. But you inspire me. You have made me fall in love with writing. That’s how Soft Healing Growth has also become my safe space with you.
Key takeaway:
Show up purposefully
Focus on your efforts, not on the metrics
Find meaning in what you do
One mistake I will never make again
Begging someone to stay in my life
After my breakup, it took me 10 months to stop begging my ex to come back into my life. It took me 10 months to accept that I needed to let go of him.
Even though my attachment type is secure, I find myself holding onto people way longer than I should. It took a while for me to realize that it was actually because I was afraid of the uncertainty and unfamiliarity of living a life without their presence.
Surely enough, I needed to work on my self-worth too. The one thing that has helped me the most in realizing that is grieving.
I allowed myself to cry, to scream, to stay heartbroken, to be angry, to disconnect from everything, to sit in silence, and to feel that emptiness. It was the most difficult phase of my life and an eye-opener too.
It took me a long time, but I eventually found the strength to accept that I deserved better. The strength to let go by allowing myself to grieve for all the beautiful moments we shared and for all the shattered dreams.
And this is how I moved on. It still hurts at times, and my nervous system still gets dysregulated often, but I have found peace. I have learned to enjoy being alone.
I have learned that begging someone to stay in your life is never worth it. Because you don’t have to chase the right people—the people who are meant for you, the people who will cherish you. Those who want to go, let them go.
Sometimes, you have to end a chapter to begin a new and more beautiful one.
And that is possible when we know our worth. It’s okay if the process is an extremely slow one. It gets easier each day.
Key Takeaway:
If you have to beg someone to stay in your life, that love is not worth it.
It gets easier to let go when you learn how to be on your own and know your worth.
Beautiful experiences are awaiting on the other side of grief. Go right through it.
One thing I am doing for my emotional well-being:
Minimize social media use
This has been a game changer for me in terms of productivity and my mental health. It isn’t easy to completely cut off social media when you make a living with it.
So instead of just disappearing from the online world, I am approaching it with intention. This is what it looks like for me:
Remove the apps that I don’t use often
Keeping only Instagram & Pinterest to run my page
Set an intention every day to only mindfully interact on my page
Consciously choose to get back on track for every slip-up as many times as I need to
Stop following accounts that were not positively impacting my life
Following accounts that inspire me
Finding my community and connecting with like minded people
Making a deliberate effort to not step out of my set boundaries
Social media can be either enlightening or destructive. And that depends on your choice.
One quote that hit home:
I am not a victim of my life. What I went through, pulled a warrior out of me. And it is my greatest honor to be her- Rupi Kaur
My Favorite Picks:
YouTube Video: “I quit social media, and it was the best decision of my life” by Michelle Gia (watch now)
Key takeaways:
Life is happening in real life, not in social media
If you’re struggling with social media, then start deleting the apps that are your least favorite
Not having social media makes room for so much time to do what nurtures you
Blog: 7 Tips to Tap into (and Trust) Your Inner Wisdom (read now)
Key takeaways:
Allow the negative thought sessions so you can release them;
Intrusive thoughts are different than intuitive thoughts. So learn to trust your inner knowing taking baby steps;
Remember those moments of tugs in the belly and note them today.
Wallpaper for You:
Question for you:
What is one thing you can do today for yourself?
Ending the newsletter with these words:
I hope you stop feeling ashamed of how many times you have fallen. I hope you start feeling proud of how many times you’ve gotten up.
That’s all for today. I will see you again!
Wishing you love, peace, and abundance
Aysha :)
I’m traumatized from my past and I’m trying to let go of it